For the Love of Complex People
It is delightful to meet people who embrace the complexities of life—who understand that it's unnecessary to play blame games or seek villains when things go wrong. That with the best intentions in the world, people can still mess things up. That even two rights can result in a wrong. That complex situations can overwhelm anyone, including themselves. And that it's always better to acknowledge a mistake and work to improve the situation, rather than defending one’s ego and creating unnecessary drama.
To people who succumb to initial complexities, these individuals might seem difficult to understand. For why should one seek conversation when it's easier to get mad and go silent? Why should one give a second chance on their own when they could make the other person beg for it? Why take the initiative when it's simpler to expect others to do so? And more importantly, why should one truly care enough to allow others to live their preferences when it’s much easier to remain blind to them? To such people, those who navigate complexity are seen as complex themselves.
With people who don’t understand this complexity, life is good until it's good. With people who do, life is good, even when it's not good. In fact, it's particularly better when it's not good, for it fosters opportunities for genuine help and support, and leads to mutual respect, admiration, and gratitude. For it prepares and enables one to confront more complexity in life, rather than succumbing to what’s at hand. For it leads to better conversations and less and less drama.
Life is truly good with those who seek a complex understanding of life.
